When I think about the things I want in a significant other, it’s more of a list of things I DON'T want. For example, “I don’t want a guy who doesn’t have a job.” “I don’t want a guy who is insensitive to other cultures.” “I don’t want a guy who is impatient.” “I don’t want a guy who is lazy.” And the list goes on and on.
A good friend encouraged me to focus on the qualities I’d like in a guy instead. She said it will allow me to be less defensive and more open to opportunities when they present themselves. It sounded rational enough.
After milling it over, I came up with a list below, in no priority order. Take a read and tell me whether I’m asking for too much. (With my track record with men, I may be!)
- Faithful
- Employed
- Owns a car
- Has a good sense of humor
- Has a point of view
- Patient
- Empathetic
- Open minded
- Likes football
- Laid back
- Reliable
- Has a healthy relationship with his family
- Has a healthy social life
- Well mannered
- Book smart / well read
- Cooks
- Willing to try new food
- Self-motivated
- Enjoys traveling
- Financially savvy and stable
- Flexible when plans don’t go as planned
- Well groomed
- Handy around the home
- Maintains a relative lifestyle
- Generous
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