Yes, it’s possible that one can be single and happy, but that state of being would have never be applicable to me until recently. I had always acquainted being single as being lonely, which is one of my biggest fears.
This fear motivated me to start dating as soon as my divorce was final. (I admit too, my injured pride wanted to show my ex that I still had what it takes to get back into the scene!) However, I quickly reached the following conclusions:
After I broke things off with this sweet guy this past December, I forced myself to focus on figuring out who I am at the core, as well as overcoming the fear of being single. The introspection allowed me to think about and prioritize my own needs and wants. And recently, I’ve concluded that being single isn’t lonely at all, but actually quite empowering!
When I was in New York City again for my birthday this year, I aimlessly wandered around the city by foot by myself. I explored places I found interesting, walked as fast or slow as I wanted, and rested when I needed to. It was quite refreshing to do things that made me happy.
I'm still working on figuring out who I am, but I’m now at a point where I’m happy with where I am in life. (I actually caught myself smiling for no apparent reason as I was checking out a street fair in Seattle’s Ballard neighborhood by myself!)
Please don’t misunderstand. I still believe in love and open to being in a meaningful relationship; however, I’m not going to rush into it just because I’m afraid of being lonely.
In the mean time, I continue to count the many blessings—my loving family, supportive friends, good health, financial stability, etc. And when asked, I can answer without reservation that my relationship status is “Happily Single!”
This fear motivated me to start dating as soon as my divorce was final. (I admit too, my injured pride wanted to show my ex that I still had what it takes to get back into the scene!) However, I quickly reached the following conclusions:
- Dating really does suck.
- I’m not ready to date yet.
- I've forgotten who I am.
After I broke things off with this sweet guy this past December, I forced myself to focus on figuring out who I am at the core, as well as overcoming the fear of being single. The introspection allowed me to think about and prioritize my own needs and wants. And recently, I’ve concluded that being single isn’t lonely at all, but actually quite empowering!
When I was in New York City again for my birthday this year, I aimlessly wandered around the city by foot by myself. I explored places I found interesting, walked as fast or slow as I wanted, and rested when I needed to. It was quite refreshing to do things that made me happy.
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| A path that I once found lonely is now full of possibilities! (Summerlake City Park, Tigard, Oregon. August 9, 2014) |
I'm still working on figuring out who I am, but I’m now at a point where I’m happy with where I am in life. (I actually caught myself smiling for no apparent reason as I was checking out a street fair in Seattle’s Ballard neighborhood by myself!)
Please don’t misunderstand. I still believe in love and open to being in a meaningful relationship; however, I’m not going to rush into it just because I’m afraid of being lonely.
In the mean time, I continue to count the many blessings—my loving family, supportive friends, good health, financial stability, etc. And when asked, I can answer without reservation that my relationship status is “Happily Single!”
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